Dressed in a billowy, patterned blouse, faded jeans and bare feet, Kellie Rasberry is every bit what you’d expect her to be: unpretentious, disarmingly honest and a new mom many women can easily relate to. The 13-year veteran of the Kid Kraddick in the Morning radio show, Rasberry, a South Carolina import, says she feels she’s cheating by getting paid to talk for four hours every day. But it’s her willingness to divulge all aspects of her life – from her battle with infertility to being a suddenly single parent with a 5-month-old daughter (Emma Kelly) – that has moms across the Metroplex tuning in each morning.
What she does: For the most part, Rasberry lives her life on the airwaves from 6–10am, even sharing her desperate quest to become a mom, which was a two-and-a-half-year struggle.
“I always knew I wanted to be a mom, but when you decide you want [to start trying for] a baby, it’s consuming,” she shares. And you ask yourself “Why am I broken?”
Sharing her journey has been a cathartic process for Rasberry, who experienced an unexpected turn of events on her road to motherhood. “When he (her ex-husband) left, I was six months pregnant, and that was horrible,” she confides. “I share so much with the listeners. … I felt like by not saying anything I was lying, but it was such a stressful time. I didn’t want to have to deal with it in a public forum; it was hard enough dealing with it in private.”
Rasberry, in her trademark, bare-all attitude, confides, “I felt like my pregnancy was spoiled. I had these dreams of sitting in the floor of the nursery assembling the crib together, and I didn’t have that. I was like, ‘I’m supposed to be doing this with my husband.’”
Rasberry waited until after Emma Kelly’s birth to announce her separation and says the outpouring of support she received shocked her. “I couldn’t believe the e-mails I got from listeners, I was inundated [with women sharing similar situations],” she reveals.
How she does it: Now a single mom caring for a cherub-cheeked babe, Rasberry juggles her early-morning schedule with the help of a live-in nanny – something, she says, like most aspects of her life (including her recent foray into the dating scene), that has not gone without comment by her legion of loyal fans. “I get judged for having a nanny. And I’ve been afraid if I started dating too soon, people would really start judging me,” she confides. “I’ve literally been on two dates; it’s nothing serious and so far I haven’t gotten any hate mail, but I’m sure that will come.”
Being on the radio in the morning has afforded Rasberry the luxury of devoting quality time with Emma Kelly in the afternoon and evenings. “I come home at lunch time, and she’s bathed and dressed up, and it’s like I get handed this pretty little package every day when I come home.”
But should she need “grown-up” time, Rasberry says she has a list of 50 volunteers ready and waiting to baby-sit. And while a renewed social life may be slow going, Rasberry reveals that she’s getting plenty of love at home. “Emma Kelly looks at me … and it’s watching her fall in love with me that’s the coolest part [of being a mom]. I’m so excited to have someone that’s always going to be part of my life.”
Published April 2007
1. When people offer to help, accept it.
2. Don't read the Web sites that track what the "average" baby should be doing by a certain age. When your baby's not doing it, you will obsess about it and make yourself crazy.
3. Keep a journal. Try to set aside some time at least once a week to track your baby's progress and make notes about what you're feeling. That will be a priceless gift to pass on to your child one day.